Gosh, I’m the freaking worst mom alive. I need to control my temper…. and shut the heck up when I know I won’t say something nice.


We have a house

Well we have a house at our new HOME away from home for the next 3 yrs. It is 3 bed and 2 bath. Hopefully, we will adjust easily to the new setting and we won’t try to kill each other.

Other than that, I may have found a home for the hermit crabs. My hubby doesn’t want to take them with us. Actually makes me sad to contemplate giving them up.

Yesterday was my birthday. I’m now 30 yrs old. I pigged out on doughnuts, sushi and Lobster bisque. It was a great birthday.

Come June I am cold turkey weaning the youngest from the boob. Wish me luck.

The end

Again- a polite debate [only my side]

I swore I would not write about circumcision anymore but the topic seems to follow me around. Yesterday, a friend posted on fb about the circumcision ban on the ballot in San Francisio. She is Jewish so she sees it as an attack on religious freedom. I can understand why it may be viewed as such but in the internet world of on-line discussion boards it is not about religion but about the American cultural concept of circumcision, the intact penis and sex. Many people who advocate against circumcision are labeled as anti-Semite or penis perverts. People who advocate against INFANT circumcision don’t give a “hoot” what your religion is as long as you respect the rights of your child. Yes, you have to make responsible medical decisions for your child while they are a minor and unable to do so…. however, the supposed benefits of circumcision do not come about until the child reaches sexual maturity. When this child reaches sexual maturity then they can decide for themselves what bodily alteration they may or may not go for. Circumcision is not a medically necessary decision to be made by the parent for most healthy infants and children.

Americans view the circumcised penis as the default setting, as the norm when in fact it is not. A baby boy is not born defective because he has a foreskin. when he is born he is Natural, whole, the default, the norm for our species and circumcision does not make him extra special…. it makes him altered… for better or for worse, he is not as he was born, he is not the default setting.

Americans have a fear of the intact male genitals… like they are going to freaking jump up and bite them…. ewww a turtle neck, ewww a foreskin, ewww extra skin, ewww smegma, ewww eww eww…. I have news for you, it is NOT extra skin. It is normal…. and smegma…. guess what everyone has smegma… especially intact uncircumcised WOMEN. That’s right, WOMEN. So if women have smegma does that make them ewww as well? No? Why? because women wash their genitals? hmmm I’m pretty sure men do to. So since we’ve established that men are no more gross than women [actually women are freaking gross, ever walk into a woman’s public bathroom???] and that both sexes need to wash their genitals lets move to sex.

Sex: {Edited and deleted to be polite} We need to get over our sexual hang ups, practice safe sex, and good hygiene and not cut functioning parts off of our children.

i’ll shut up now and I really don’t want to write on this topic again. i hate this topic. I hate it.

Below is my side of the fb discussion

——————–the discussion on fb:  My side of the discussion to avoid naming people———————

 I don’t think a ban is the answer. However, I do believe insurance companies should quit covering it and hospital and pediatricians should quit offering it routinely to all infant males.
I understand the religious reasoning for the Jewish and Muslim people however for most non-Jewish American people it is done out of “well daddy is and I think it’s prettier”… For the most part routine infant circumcision is cosmetic surgery on a minor for no reason. All the medical reasoning is either light weight or exaggerated.
I know we won’t agree.
I don’t think a ban is the answer but really it’s not a religious persecution issue. Many people, even men, see it as a violation of their body…. Especially when they aren’t Jewish or Muslim
I can respect the religious reasoning, but not the non-religious reasoning
I understand G-d instructed the Jewish people to do so.
However, for Christians, it is not religiously mandated
We will have to agree to disagree….
To me it is cosmetic only… Possible life long nerve damage, possible hemorrhage, possible life long painful erection of too much skin is removed and the fact that it is not my genitals or my sex life that will be effected if things go wrong are very good cons to circumcision of infants.
The possible benefits are for adults who are sexually active and who can make sexually mature decisions about their sex life and sexual hygiene. Whether they as men decide to chop it off or use soap.
Condoms prevent STDs. Good sexual behaviors and good hygiene make got a good life.
Circumcised or not a man needs to take care of himself.
I will teach my intact sons proper care. If they don’t follow proper care then there are consequences… That is reality for both uncircumcised and circumcised. The USA has a very high STD rate and a very high Circ rate so I’d say circumcision doesn’t prevent STDs.
I can understand how it feels like a personal religious attack. But many people see it as fighting for the rights of the child. The issue isn’t about religion or the rights of the parents, it’s about the rights of the child to have all the healthy body parts he/she is born with.
We already ban female circumcision. Any type, even just a pin prick on the vulva/vagina/clitoris is not allowed. Equal protection under the law should be for both males and females.
The Equal Protection Clause of the 14th amendment of the U.S. Constitution prohibits states from denying any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws. See U.S. Const. amend. XIV. In other words, the laws of a state must treat an individual in the same manner as others in similar conditions and circumstances. A violation would occur, for example, if a state prohibited an individual from entering into an employment contract because he or she was a member of a particular race. The equal protection clause is not intended to provide “equality” among individuals or classes but only “equal application” of the laws. The result, therefore, of a law is not relevant so long as there is no discrimination in its application. By denying states the ability to discriminate, the equal protection clause of the Constitution is crucial to the protection of civil rights.See Civil Rights.
However, if someone is a practicing Jew or Muslim I think their should be room for religious exemption BUT I do not think that babies should be subjected to circumcision for invalid reasons especially if the parents are not fully informed on the possible outcomes…. Children have been permanently injured or died from complications from circumcision. Though complications are rare, it was a needless death or maiming.I don’t argue the religious reasons. That is between each person and G-d, I argue the American cultural reasons and the bogus medical reasons to circumcise a newborn infant.
Most American parents don’t circumcise for religious reasons…. And being Christian, of non-Jewish origin, [meaning not genetically or culturally Jewish] is not a legitimate religious excuse to circumcise.
I do understand that many do not know exactly what circumcision entails and many moms I’ve come across never read up on it, never researched it and just handed their kid over to the dr at 2 days old because they thought all boys got it done, like the cutting of the umbilical cord. Many people don’t realize that the foreskin serves a purpose in protecting the penis-especially in the baby yrs- from bacteria and infections and in the sexual yrs by keeping the penis healthy.
I’ve been researching this and been on discussion boards for 4 yrs. Many parents say they just did it because they didn’t know anyone who hadn’t…. And to me personally that isn’t a valid reason to alter your child and possibly injure him.
I understand that to some that is worth the risk and also to some it is a risk to take because it is for G-d. But I think for the majority American cultural conformity takes over and takes precedence over our children.I hope I am not bring disrespectful. This is a subject I feel very strongly against. I am not an anti-Semite, I just don’t agree with the procedure, especially with the way the American culture views the male anatomy as fundamentally flawed and ugly.
Just because we are allowed to do something doesn’t make it fundamentally right.
 I already agreed that a ban was not the answer. Simply make it to where insurance doesn’t cover it. Then if people really want it, well then they really have to pay for it.

Blog Private?????

I got a weird blog referral linking my blog for other viewers. It creeped me out so I’m  wondering if i should my blog private for a while. Yeah I got 12 views today but just very weird that I can’t trace the link. it goes onto a spam site.  If the link was legit and I could see their site and see why they linked me maybe I wouldn’t be so weirded out  

A quote

History is particularly important in throwing light on the source of our attitudes about sex because many of the assumptions we make are not necessarily scientific or rational but holdovers of past belief systems that are no longer held by modern society. ~Vern Bullough

Hermit crabs

SID is a live!!! He survived his molting! We saw him yesterday and today with new pink limbs!
Next week, I will reintroduce him to the other ones.
Sunsun and sunshine are still reclusive.

Yesterday, we caught some little brown toads at church to release today in our yard. Sadly, all but one died in our care during today’s afternoon heat in our back room. The one left living was released but who knows if it will survive.


More beading

The green one with the egg pendant: the pendant was given to me as a Christmas gift when I was working with a jewelry distributor in 1999.

The heart necklace: the pendant is made if real gold.



Hermit Crabs

The hermit crabs are still living. The small one SID is hiding and not eating because he is growing 3-4 replacement legs. I don’t know how he lost the legs or even if it was while in my care but I’ve isolated him so the others don’t eat him while he is vulnerable. The other 2, SunSun and Sunshine are doing fine. Hermit crabs are a lot less active than I thought they’d be. I have to practically kick them out of their coconut huts to make them eat and walk around. The hermits were a mistake. Oh well. Chalk that up top another bad decision.



Most of the things we do, we do for no better reason than that our fathers have done them or that our neighbors do them, and the same is true of a larger part than we suspect of what we think. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.


So I”m starting to stop visiting the baby discussion boards and I will distance myself from this mental torture.

on another note I beaded 3 necklaces this week. pics to come later. 2 of them I used old charms from old necklaces. the one with cross is actually real gold and small pearls although the beads of the necklace are fake. The goldish brassy colored necklace came out beautifully. The pendent was from the first necklace my hubby gave me. He gave it to me on our 3rd date. The pink necklace is actually what started me back on the road of beading. I made it for my sister-in-law’s baby shower to go with my dress for her “tea party” babyshower.





non-conformist quotes and my thoughts

Conformity Quotes, Sayings about Nonconformity, Thinking for Yourself, Peer Pressure.

I’m not sure I want popular opinion on my side – I’ve noticed those with the most opinions often have the fewest facts. ~Bethania McKenstry

Don’t think you’re on the right road just because it’s a well-beaten path. ~Author Unknown

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. ~Dr. Seuss

A man must consider what a rich realm he abdicates when he becomes a conformist. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Nature made us individuals, as she did the flowers and the pebbles; but we are afraid to be peculiar, and so our society resembles a bag of marbles, or a string of mold candles. Why should we all dress after the same fashion? The frost never paints my windows twice alike. ~Lydia Maria Child

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary. ~Albert Einstein

In all affairs it’s a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted. ~Bertrand Russell


I’ve never thought of myself as a non-conformist. In fact, most of my life I’ve spent either trying to be what others want me to be or pursuing what I thought I was supposed to be. i always wanted to be the pretty girl. The popular girl. The smart girl. The party girl. The responsible girl. [instead i was the conflicted girl, never certain of myself or other people’s perception of me]

Now as a parent I find myself often times outside the norm of mainstream USA. I’m slowly becoming more eco-friendly, more healthy I’m extended breastfeeding my 2 yr old and I’ve left both my boys intact/uncircumcised. These are things I never even considered before I had kids. I’ve always been the cheap-skate and cheap food is highly processed
and packaged. I always assumed I’d bottle feed… its all I ever saw and I thought everyone circumcised little boys. I just thought those things were what people did. i didn’t realize there were options… options that I’d consider better… normal…natural

Who knew that aromatheraphy and herbal extracts and remedies would appeal to me….[am I a witch?? hehehe] [gotta stir the brew] Who knew I’d be searching food labels for the dreaded red 40, yellow 5 or blue 1….? Who knew I’d be a facebook addict and join fan pages devoted to green living and human rights? Who knew I’d be the crazy lady on facebook? hehehe Actually, everyone always knew I’d be crazy….

Sometimes, I find that I feel so different from everyone around and and I wonder where I fit in and if I fit in anywhere… I’m not a granola hippie mom and I ‘m not a mainstream mom. I don’t always think outside the box but often times I’m climbing out of it for a quick run around some barely used paths.

Often times, I still want to be what everyone else wants me to be or I want to be doing what everyone else is…. However, though I know I shall always fall short of their expectations I know that my potential to be my crazy assed self is limitless.

The blessing of never quiet fitting in is that I never have too.

I cannot judge others for I am the least but I can “not” agree with them and know how I would do differently or should do differently.

[i have not proof read this as I have to pick the boys up from daycare]