Excellent blog written by a Christian mother concerning RIC

An excellent blog article written in 2008 concerning routine infant circumcision and the needlessness of it.



Anthropology article

I obviously did not write this. Below are just excerpts. I advise you to click on the link to read this very well written opinion article.

anthropological article on circumcision that is gender neutral


Anthropology and Circumcision: Why So Us and Them?
by Zachary Androus
Panel: Male and Female Genital Surgeries
105th Annual Meeting of the American Anthropological Association

state of affairs in the discipline originally led me to think that I should focus my work on male circumcision, but I have since arrived at the notion that what we need is nothing short of an entirely new paradigm for the anthropological consideration of human genital modifications, one in which the gender of the body being modified is itself not a relevant element of the practice compared to who elects the modification, the complexity of the modification, the extent of its occurrence, and the meanings attributed to the practice by those directly and indirectly involved with its performance. This approach differs from that typical up until now because the overwhelming majority of anthropological attention to genital modification, whether culturally, socially, religiously, or medically motivated has been characterized by a markedly differential treatment on the basis of gender and a systematic exception from analysis of genital modifications practiced within the anthropologists’ own societies.
Even when both male and female modifications are considered in the literature, they tend to be categorized as such, frequently imposing an artificial separation of practices that fails to reflect the cultural sensibilities of those whose beliefs and behavior is under analysis.

Secondly, if this applies to anyone, it should apply to everyone. I believe it to be of utmost importance that we not exclude any practices from our analysis, especially those genital modification practices that we take for granted as ordinary or unremarkable because they are familiar to us or because they are practiced widely in our own society or cultural group. The category of genital modification, whether male, female, or human, includes unrelated practices that have in common only an alteration of the genital structure.

In my opinion, the appropriate contexts to consider genital modifications harmful are when they are performed against the will of or without the consent or knowledge of the individual whose body is being modified. I feel comfortable asserting that in the overwhelming majority of cases, causing harm is not a motivation for the performance of genital modification, and thus (apart from helping to understand why and how a given modification is important to the practitioners) the point of considering the complexity of modification is to help understand the potential for and address any possible complications.

at I do think should be considered problematic are those elected without the consent of the individuals on whom they are performed, namely the circumcision of male infants. The majority of these surgeries in the United States are performed for social reasons rather than religious or ritual requirements, but all of them are subject to the same critique in terms of consent. As I explained before, I am not arguing against religiously or ethnically motivated genital modification per se; I am instead arguing that individuals should be allowed to undertake these procedures themselves once they are old enough to decide for themselves if they wish to share in the religion and tradition of their parents. And since we are American anthropologists discussing an American cultural practice, the criticism of the interventionist anti-FGM discourse do not apply here. Instead, it is an entirely appropriate application of anthropological knowledge to our own society.
As to non-religious neonatal circumcision, the Anglophone bioethical literature has quite a bit to say about the questions of proxy consent and cosmetic surgery, but precious little to say about male circumcision, despite its prevalence and the widespread characterization of the practice as socially motivated cosmetic surgery. A striking contrast appears to me between the mainstream medical and bioethical positions on childhood surgeries generally and the mainstream medical and bioethical positions on neonatal male circumcision particularly. As is so often the case, male circumcision appears to be an unjustified exception. On the one hand we have the mainstream position represented by the AAP Committee on Bioethics which advises that “providers have legal and ethical duties to their child patients to render competent medical care based on what the patient needs, not what someone else expresses. Although impasses regarding the interests of minors and the expressed wishes of their parents or guardians are rare, the pediatrician’s responsibilities to his or her patient exist independent of parental desires or proxy consent” (315). This is echoed in the advice of bioethicist Adrienne Asch to parents of children with atypical bodies when she “urge[s] delaying all appearance- altering surgery until children can participate in the deliberations” (2006:228). On the other hand we have the AAP statement on circumcision which authorizes parents alone to “determine what is in the child’s best interests” in cases in which “the procedure is not essential to the child’s current well-being” (Lannon et al 1999:691). This conclusion was echoed in the American Journal of Bioethics four years later by neurologist Michael Benatar and ethicist David Benatar who found that neonatal male circumcision “is a suitable matter for parental discretion” (Benatar and Benatar 2003:35). It is ironic that conflict between child patients’ interests and the wishes of their parents is described as rare, given the millions of circumcisions that have been performed in our lifetimes. The contradictions between neonatal circumcision and all other pediatric surgeries are startlingly apparent, and this raises two questions: why is male circumcision the exception, and what is the appropriate response from medical anthropology?

, I feel that it is hardly revolutionary to say that medical anthropology, especially a critically applied medical anthropology, should point out the cultural blind spots that have led to the creation of double standards in medical practice, and socially motivated genital surgery should be a decision made by the individual, in accordance with the standards of pediatric bioethics. Custom is not a valid justification for making so widespread an exception to accepted standards of professional medical practice.


Home made face paint

So I got this link for home-made face paint and I think that I’m going to make the boys’ face paint this yr.
I may mix coconut oil instead of cold cream or petroleum jelly with the corn starch and slight food coloring…. No clue how this will work though…. Hmmmm…..



So I mixed 2 tbs of Vaseline, 2 tbs of coconut oil and some cornstarch and food coloring…. If just ended up making a tint…

Circumcision: identity, gender and power link to peaceful parenting page.

From drmomma.org

“In order to attempt to understand the role of circumcision in Judaism, we need to explore not simply the biblical injunction found in Genesis 17:10-12. We are also obliged to focus on the functions that male genital cutting serves — socially, politically, psychologically, and individually — in order to see what and whose invisible needs are being fulfilled. Some of this information comes to us from scholarship; some can only be derived by examining the more subtle ramifications that result from the permanent alteration of male sexual organs.”


This is a very well written fascinating article by “Miriam Pollack, member of a Conservative Synagogue, has been advocating, locally and internationally, for intactivism. She is founder and director of the Literacy & Language Center in Boulder, Colorado.”


Picture taken from saving our sons Facebook page savingsons.org

Australian study of RIC

My link was taken from the whole network but the link to the original article is also Included.
I did not in anyway write this, only copy/paste



“Below is a recent study, published on October 4, 2011, by the Australian and New Zealand Journal of Public Health. You can find the original paper here.

Objective: To conduct a critical review of recent proposals that widespread circumcision of male infants be introduced in Australia as a means of combating heterosexually transmitted HIV infection.

Approach: These arguments are evaluated in terms of their logic, coherence and fidelity to the principles of evidence-based medicine; the extent to which they take account of the evidence for circumcision having a protective effect against HIV and the practicality of circumcision as an HIV control strategy; the extent of its applicability to the specifics of Australia’s HIV epidemic; the benefits, harms and risks of circumcision; and the associated human rights, bioethical and legal issues.

Conclusion: Our conclusion is that such proposals ignore doubts about the robustness of the evidence from the African random-controlled trials as to the protective effect of circumcision and the practical value of circumcision as a means of HIV control; misrepresent the nature of Australia’s HIV epidemic and exaggerate the relevance of the African random-controlled trials findings to it; underestimate the risks and harm of circumcision; and ignore questions of medical ethics and human rights. The notion of circumcision as a ‘surgical vaccine’ is criticised as polemical and unscientific.

Implications: Circumcision of infants or other minors has no place among HIV control measures in the Australian and New Zealand context; proposals such as these should be rejected.”
“Medical ethics and human rights
Even if the circumcision proposal were relevant to the Australian situation, to be ethically acceptable a medical intervention must pass the five tests proposed by Beauchamp and Childress:

Beneficence – does the proposed procedure provide a net therapeutic benefit to the patient, considering the risk, pain, and loss of normal function?

Non-maleficence – does the procedure avoid permanently diminishing the patient in any way that could be avoided?

Proportionality – will the final result provide a significant net benefit to the patient in proportion to the risk undertaken and the losses sustained?

Justice – will the patient be treated as fairly as we would all wish to be treated?

Autonomy – lacking life-threatening urgency, will the procedure honour the patient’s right to his or her own likely choice? Could it wait for the patient’s assent?77
Cooper et al. ignore ethical and human rights issues, but their proposal would not be acceptable unless it was established that non-therapeutic circumcision of non-consenting minors was permissible within the above guidelines. It has been argued that in the absence of a life-threatening disorder, surrogate consent for non-therapeutic surgery of this type is ethically problematic and may not be legally valid.78–80 When there is no urgency to intervene, it is best to wait until the child can provide his own informed consent.”

Keurig stuck and not brewing

Ok this morning my keurig would not brew coffee. The water was not passing from the tank through the machine.
I poured in vinegar into the tank and a bunch of white filmy stuff floated up even though I descaled it about a month ago and the descale button on my machine wasn’t lit.
I lightly scratched at the filter in the tank and more thicker filmy stuff (nasty) came off…. So far vinegar water is able to flow through. Maybe it is fixed?
I think I’ll let it descale some more for a couple of hours….
Here is the link I looked at for ideas….


Here is my google search


Update: it took forever for me to actually get all the vinegar out… Yuck… But my keurig is working again… Thank God, cause I was getting pissed that my less than a yr old expensive coffee machine might be broken…

Update: 12/8/12
I thought my keurig had bit the dust finally. About 2-3 months ago I put a keurig filter in my machine tank and it worked fine. The day after I changed the filter the lights started blinking at me. I thought it was at deaths door. So I had my hubby order me a new one for Christmas. However, after a whole day of soaking on vinegar water, it is working again… Sigh!!!

Martha vs Maxine funny

Hehehehe funny below

Matha Stewart and Maxine

Kitchen Tips

Stuff a miniature marshmallow in the bottom of an ice cream cone to prevent ice cream drips

Just suck the ice cream out of the bottom of the cone, for god’s sake! You are probably lying on the couch with your feet up eating it anyway!

To keep potatoes from budding, place an apple in the bag with the potatoes.

Buy Hungry Jack mashed potato mix.
Keeps in the pantry for a decade.

When a cake recipe calls for flouring the baking pan, use a bit of the dry cake mix instead and there won’t be any white mess on the outside of the cake.

Go to the bakery! Hell, they’ll even decorate it for you!

If you accidentally over-salt a dish while it’s still cooking, drop in a peeled potato and it will absorb the excess salt for an instant ‘fix-me-up.’

If you over-salt a dish while you are cooking, tough sh*t! Please recite with me the real woman’s motto:
‘I made it, you will eat it and I don’t care how bad it tastes!’

Wrap celery in aluminum foil when putting in the refrigerator and it will keep for weeks.

Celery? What the hell is celery?!

Brush some beaten egg white over pie crust before baking to yield a beautiful glossy finish.

That kind of unnecessary crap isn’t in the Mrs. Smith frozen pie directions.

Cure for headaches: take a lime, cut it in half and rub it on your forehead. The throbbing will go away.

IF the lime is from your third margarita!

If you have a problem opening jars, try using latex dish washing gloves.
They give a non-slip grip that makes opening jars easy.

Bullsh*t! Go ask the neighbor with the washboard abs to open it for you…. shirtless!

Don’t throw out all that leftover wine. Freeze into ice cubes for future use in casseroles and sauces.

Leftover Wine, Martha?????? HELLO!!!!!!!

Lastly, if you don’t forward
this to 1 of your friends within
the next 5 minutes your belly
button will unscrew and your
butt will fall off. (Which may be really flattering for some!) Really….. It’s true!
Have I ever lied to you?




My darling children
My heart made flesh
Outside of myself
I’m sorry that I lack the self control to control my angry words
I’m trying, I’m trying, I’m sorry, I’m sorry
My heart, my sons, my guilt and regret in the wake of my anger swamp and drown me.
I cannot breathe.
You trust me.
You love me.
You forgive.
I cannot forgive myself.
Until I am the mother I long to be.
Until I can respect the mother I am.
I will not forgive myself.
I cannot forgive myself.
I need to do better, be better.

Oh God! I don’t know how. My heart, my tears, my agony…. May my agony stop with myself. May I not pass my burden onto my children. May they grow up unscathed.
My sons, my heart made flesh outside of myself. I love you. I’m trying. I’m sorry.

Face scrub, moisturizer, coconut oil experiment….

Ok a long while back I questioned using a homemade deodorant made of ev coconut oil, cornstarch, baking soda and essential oils as a face wash….
Well I got behind in using it so that experiment is failed… However, I just made a fresh batch without the cornstarch to use specifically as a facial scrub and moisturizer…..
4 tbs of extra virgin coconut oil
2 big tsp of baking soda
Mix them, then slightly melt
Added a lot of drops of lavender and a lot of drops of absolute rose essential oils….
Mixed and now I’m allow to cool and solidify into a solid mass instead a porcelain cup with lid….
Experiment to being tmw….or tonight…. Not sure…….

Update: put a pea sized amount on your finger and rub around your dry face. Gently exfoliate. Rinse with cool or warm water until baking soda is gone but oily film remains. Pat dry.

Update: just so you know: lavender essential oil cam be applied neat to skin but rose oil needs to be diluted in a carrier oil.