Female circumcision is horrible, is it any less horrible for boys??

I am only a blogger, I am not a scientist or a doctor I am a mother who has read and researched this topic thoroughly

WHO says never ok to cut girl genitals <;;;/(disclaimer : these are my words and not WHO)


(warning this link has pictures)



WHO says boys don’t need protection, let’s slice up their genitals (disclaimer : these are my words and not WHO) http://www.who.int/hiv/mediacentre/MCrecommendations_en.pdf

id circ harm: http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm

warning picture of native African manhood circ ceremony

male and female circumcision pictures… Is there a difference








Sooo hermit crabs

So remember a while back when one of our 3 hermit crabs died, I told my boys, and we buried it. A few weeks after the burial I bought 3 small, small hermits.
About a week before our trek from TN to Florida I moved their habitat into a smaller more portable case.
Well we’ve been in FL for about 3 full weeks. At some point in the last 3-4 weeks one of the small crabs had died while buried in the substrate. I thought it may be molting so I tried to give it plenty of time, well I checked today and it was dead dead dead.
This time I did not tell the boys as they had not yet formed attachments to the new small hermits, in fact my hubs thinks I only bought 1 extra hermit do this hermit that died wont be missed by the family. However, I did bury this one and covered it with rocks to protects its “grave”….

On another note, the living hermits are enjoying all sorts of food: rabbit food, dried veg, dried fruit, crab food, cricket food, finch food….. Etc

White wine dressing- yummy

The tipsy cook (go to that website for more great recipes)

“This takes five minutes and a blender. It doesn’t get easier than that!

2 TBSP white wine – I used Sauvignon Blanc
2 TBSP lemon juice
1/2 tsp. honey
1/2 tsp. coarse ground Dijon mustard
1 TBSP shallot, minced
1 clove garlic, minced
1/2 tsp. salt
1/4 tsp.ground black pepper
1/4c extra-virgin olive oil

1. Place all ingredients, except olive oil into a blender and puree until well blended and consistency is smooth.

2. Keep blender running and gradually add the olive oil to blend thoroughly.

3. Season to taste and serve immediately over a salad or chill for later.”

I did substitute the shallot for onion
1/4 tsp of garlic powder instead of a clove of garlic
Italian seasoning instead of mustard and pepper….
I also accidentally blended the oil with the ingredients all at once so it came out looking creamy….


Consequences for child misbehavior

Kids don’t need to be upset about consequences
to learn from consequences.

Of course, the odds for learning go way up when consequences meet the following guidelines:
They are logical.

The consequence makes sense given the child’s mistake or misbehavior.
They are provided with love.

The consequence is delivered with sincere empathy instead of frustration, anger, or sarcasm.
They are enforceable.

The consequence is something we can actually do, and it doesn’t punish us as we provide it.
They are preceded with very few words.

Before the consequence is provided, there are no repeated warnings, threats, or lectures.
When they are over, they are over.

After providing the consequence, the adult doesn’t rub salt in the wounds by lecturing, moralizing, or trying to make sure that the child has learned a lesson.

-Dr Charles Fay

Keurig Kahula coffee

Ok my opinions on some keurig coffees…

The Kahula is weak and disappointing
The caribou(?) mahogany is a bit too strong for me
The Timoty’s cinnamon pastry is a nice light coffee
I think the pecan praline by van houtte (?) is delicious

I am partial to nutty favors….

update: I change my mind, I think I like the kaluha when using half and half

Good blog post on circumcision

I did not write this


Loving and gentle intactivism is the most effective
by LILLI CANNON posted on APRIL 10, 2012

It is normal to go through a stage of furious anger in one’s journey through intactivism. I have yet to meet an intactivist who has not. I had to take a year-long break from intactivism because whenever I tried to advocate for babies’ human rights, I became so angry and bitter that I turned people off. Bill Moyer, creator of the Movement Action Plan for changing society, says that activists have to continually work on their personal growth in order to be effective in their advocacy. I have certainly found this to be true, and all the most effective intactivists I know have moved through their anger to a place of loving care for everyone, circumcising parents included. People will hear our tone before they hear our message, and if our tone is angry, they will ignore the message.

Intactivists, our view is not yet the mainstream view, and if we expect society to adopt our viewpoint, we cannot continually set roadblocks to this process. Rather, we should do everything we can to make it easy for the mainstream to accept our view. Expecting them to go instantly and easily from seeing circumcision as positive and normal to seeing it as sexual abuse and mutilation is foolish and naive. Some of you may have clearly and quickly seen circumcision for what it is, but you are in the minority. Many of the most dedicated among us took years to see circumcision as fundamentally wrong, and we need to allow others the same time to make this difficult journey.

Attacked on babycenter

Wow! Out of the blue a “lady”(term used loosely) personal messages on me babycenter.com to tell me that I was obsessed with Infant penis….
Normally, I may not respond or “feed the troll” but I was incensed and irritated that some stranger out of nowhere decided for no reason to attack me and my views.
The conversation is below with “her name” erased.
I left my typos because well Im only human and I’m on my touch screen and auto correct is always screwing me up….

From: (name erased)
To: You
Subject: just a note
Date: 5/27/12 12:30AM
For: For profile
I find your obsession with infant penis not only highly offensive, but completely unhealthy. The only threads that you post on are threads having to do with circumcision.

« Previous MessageNext Message »
From: You
To: (name erased)
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 5/31/12 09:35PM
I’m not obsessed about Infant penises. I’m am concerned with protecting children from unnecessary surgery and informing parents that this elective surgery can have horrible consequences. I inform. I don’t personal care about your choices or your preferences. I care about protecting children. I’m sorry my caring and concern for the welfare of young children eho cannot protect themselves offends you. Injuring children offends me and people who advocate harming children offends me.
If the child in question was a girl and I advocated for her to be left genitally intact/whole/natural you wouldn’t call me offensive but because I care about the protection of both sexes, leaving girls and boys as nature intended, not harming the persons of either sex you find my stance offensive and you know what I don’t give a care what you think. I will continue to advocate for the protection of both sexes from genital amputation surgeries on I consenting (unconsenting) victimized minors. I don’t answer concerns about female genital mutilation on babycenter because well that’s not much of a concern here in the USA as it is illegal in all forms be it a pin prick, the removal of a sliver of skin or full removal external genitalia… The USA has a fascination with harming boys and I advocate the protection of boys and girls. Period.

From: You
To: (name erased)
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 6/1/12 08:26PM
No answer?
Again I find harming Infants offensive and unhealthy….
God Bless
James 1:2-3

(name erased)
To: You
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 6/1/12 10:28PM
I didn’t really read what you wrote. I am sure it was biased nonsense. I will circ my babies, and frankly it’s none of your business. If it was good enough for Jesus, it’s good enough for my boys. 🙂

To: (name erased)
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 6/1/12 11:22PM
Actually, I didn’t waste my time on giving you biased nonsense… My only question for you after search your posts…
If seems you’ve had trouble conceiving or keeping pregnancies so why with a viable healthy child would you submit them to a potentially dangerous surgery for non-medical reasons?
Seems silly.

I finding harming children offensive and unhealthy.

To: (name erased)
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 6/1/12 11:33PM
Jesus was also born of a virgin,
Whipped, crowned with thorns, carried his own cross and was crucified with nails in his hands and feet….
Circumcision is harming a child.



For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.

From (name erased)
To: You
Subject: Re: just a note
Date: 6/1/12 11:51PM
One and only warning. If you PAN me one more time I am reporting you. This is harassment. You can quote wiki to me all day, I don’t care. I don’t have to justify my decisions about my sons penis to you! You creep me out. And I am sure I am not the only person on BBC that you have done this to. Find a new hobby. As I stated in my first email to you..I find your obsession with little boys penis weird and offensive.


From: (you)
To: (name erased)
Subject: You attacked me. You wrote me.
Date: 6/2/12 07:53AM
I did not attack you. You wrote me. I did nothing to you. Period.


I do feel this was very childish behavior on both our parts. I should have stopped or just not responded. I did report her though for the personal attack and I only did it out of spite because she didn’t offend me… Her ignorance and meanness offends me though