The Unspoken Aspects of having a Foreskin – A Guest Post by Life-Intact
And looking back at it all, I can say that life has been interesting, growing up as a man with intact genitals in a cut culture.
Imagine me at the age of 21 years showing my girlfriend, a third-year nursing student of the same age, what a normal penis was like and how it worked. She had no idea otherwise. She had thought that the foreskin was like a “flap of skin,” when it in reality is much more like a pleasantly slinky sleeve that protects the penis and vagina from abnormal amounts of abrasion and friction during intercourse.
have heard a few men say things like “I’m so glad my parents had me circumcised,” but to this day, I don’t know whether or not they really are, or if they are simply saying such things to preserve their egos. I can say though, from personal experience, that convincing yourself that what you are missing is not a big deal is only harder to do when you come face to face with what you’ve come to convince yourself you are better off without.
The doctor looked at me thoughtfully, for a moment. He suddenly dropped all his formality by saying to me,
“You know, I’ve sort of been in your shoes before, and if you don’t mind my saying, from experience, the only problem I have ever had in my entire life with having a foreskin is with other people having a problem with that, and that really seems to be the case here, between you and your parents.”
I looked at the doctor, astonished, but grateful at having found a sympathetic ally like I had at a time like this.
I told him this was the case, and that I did not want to be circumcised, no matter what.
It would be a few years later that the place I was working at was offering its employees free physicals as performed by nursing students under guided instruction. I decided to go and get one, simply to support the nursing students from my college.
My examiner (an international nursing student that I know from school, conversationally) during this physical was checking me for a hernia, like they usually do, and is eye-level with my penis.
Here is what he says to me, conversationally:
“So, have you been making sure to keep your foreskin clean?”
Me: “Well, yeah. It isn’t rocket science, and only takes about 10 seconds in the shower.”
Elderly female instructor, helpfully: “Have you ever considered circumcision to keep things more hygienic down there?”
Chilean nursing student to the instructor: “Me either. Why do they do this so much in the US? I mean, you guys have more access to plumbing and soap and stuff than any other place, and it is so easy to take care of.”
The instructor frowned.
Nobody talked about the elephant in the room at that point (the fact that both of us had foreskins and thought circumcision was dumb), and the instructor regarded the both of us with a troubled look.
Since learning about my friend’s unfortunate circumcision, I began searching on the internet for things that could go wrong with circumcisions, and I was shocked, to say the least, at the sheer amount of photographic horrors, personal and traumatic stories, and deaths associated with circumcision. I felt lucky, oddly enough, for having been born prematurely with the problems I had because it spared me from an operation that could have gone very badly.
Since taking on an intactivist mindset, I have really been surprised by what otherwise ethically typical people will do or say to justify infant genital cutting. Thus far, I have called this phenomenon “selective suspension of rationality.” I find it strange when people somehow think circumcision is more hygienic when it creates an open penis wound in the environment of the diaper
I came across this guy’s story originally from visiting moralogous.com, the link is below.
below is a link to pictures of a circumcision…. Look at it and realize this torture is happening to a child