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Hey all, my 36 yr old, older brother unexpectedly died of heart failure last week on Sept. 27, 2014. I loved him but I didn’t appreciate him enough. I didn’t see him often lately and when I did, I teased him (as little sisters do) but I don’t know if I told him I loved him and how much he meant to me.
So take my advice: tell the people you love, that you love them. Be there for them.

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What I said at his memorial service
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David was my brother, no David is my brother. And as his sister, I don’t think I appreciated him enough, because I took him for granted. I thought, he was always going to be there, that he was always going to tease me, that I was always going to annoy him, that he would always be there as a presence for my children. Unfortunately, I was wrong. David has taught me, through his death, that when you love somebody you need to let them know, as often as you can, be it through the words I love you, be through little gestures like hugs, kisses, punches, pinches, uh I mean hugs and kisses. And I hope that this is a lesson that he is taught you. appreciate the people in your life even if you don’t always get along with them, even if you don’t always agree with them or their lifestyle choices, even if they are the most aggravating person in the world, which David was not I was. Appreciate your loved ones be they friends or family and never treat a stranger bad because you don’t know what they’re going through.
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Soggy mamas 2.0

https://m.facebook.com/SoggyMamas2?id=559007567474275&refsrc=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&_rdr

My heart is aching for those children. Click on the link and read the screen shots. Many babies are bleeding heavily and getting infections from circumcisions. Mothers are saying how their babies are screaming in pain.
Look at the screen shots. Your heart will break too.

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Circumcision and a mother’s story

http://www.epibiostat.ucsf.edu/epidem/personnel/newman_document_repository/Circumcision%20facts%20for%20parents%202006.htm

Reading this how can anyone think the possible benefits outweigh the possible risk of serious penile injury?

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Arguments against circumcision

http://italiots.wordpress.com/2013/06/30/circumcision/

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This may have been written in 1997 but it still holds true

http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9712/23/circumcision.anesthetic/

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A mother’s story

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Link not provided to preserve her privacy.
She did leave future sons intact as a result of this catastrophe.

Approached a distant family relation….

Ack! I did it. I wrote a distant family relation who is pregnant with a boy, about not circumcising. I know her brothers are because the oldest boy couldn’t retract as a toddler and was cut and so the younger brother was as well when he was born yrs later. (Totally bogus reason given by the dr and accepted as valid by the parent, unfortunately)
She is of Hispanic descent and so is her husband. I can only assumed he is whole as he was born in another country.
The mother said she’d read the info as she had no clue what to decide.
I hope I save this child.

http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/fleiss.html

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Here is what I wrote:

“Hey lady, how are you? Congrats on being preggo with a baby boy!
I know I’m about to give advice that is not being asked for but it is something I feel strongly about so I’m sharing the info. I know in C/S America and in Hispanic culture in general it customary to not circumcise. (Which I totally agree with)…. But I also know that American culture is saturated with the “cut the penis” mentality.
I’m sending you information on the proper care of the uncut newborn male body and information against circumcision (aka cutting the baby)

Please don’t think I’m crazy… I’m just being protective.
Here are some links
http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html?m=1

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html?m=1
http://www.thewholenetwork.org/14/post/2011/09/proper-care-of-the-intact-penis-from-baby-to-teenager.html

http://www.nocirc.org/publish/4pam.pdf

If you need anymore information I can give you more. I can even get science links and pediatric associations against newborn circumcision from other countries…

Some legal language. Interesting if you can get through it! 😊

http://rjolpi.richmond.edu/archive/Adler_Formatted.pdf

And last I’ll bother you with. I didn’t circumcise my boys because their daddy is whole and not cut but it wasn’t until I read this article below that I did any research and became very very very very against circumcision.

http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/fleiss.html

Tail docking, Sounds like a circ argument…

This link here are people actually discussing the comparisons circumcision and tail docking

My 6 year old has been watching “too cute” which is a tv show about puppies and kittens. He asked why some dogs have no tails. I said some are born with them short and some are cut off.
This caused me to look for info and I can across this forum. I’m heart sick…

Sounds like the circumcision argument but about dog tail and ear cropping.
Sigh….
http://www.gentledoberman.com/forums/doberman-pinscher-discussion/doberman-pinscher-ears/crop-and-dockor-not

It is not painless, but it is not the huge deal that people make of it either. Tails and dewclaws are done by 5 days of age – if later, they have to be done by a vet with pain meds. Puppies are born with an incomplete nervous system – docking of tails and dews IS felt, but as soon as the puppy is returned to the whelping box, they are totally over it. Part of their issue is the fact that they are being restrained on their back and they really don’t like that.

Honestly, i am not exaggerating one single bit, but Ziva didnt seem to feel as much discomfort after her ears were cropped and posted than she did when she was spayed. That’s the truth. Maybe she was in a small percentage of pups that didn’t have any adverse reaction, I dont know. She didn’t have to wear a cone, because she didnt bother her ears. She played and ran and jumped and acted as if nothing at all had been done to her ears. When she was spayed, though, she layed around for almost two days, looking as pathetic as possible and walked in a way that I knew she was uncomfortable….she took pain meds for two days immediately after her spay surgery. No pain meds were needed after her ear crop. Yes, like mentioned already, tails and dewclaws are cut when the puppy is 3 – 5 days old (my vet prefers 3 days) before the nerve endings have completely developed in those areas. It’s quick and they heal fast, and momma dobe takes such good care of the babies, they forget about their little procedures almost immediately upon returning to their mother.

As Fitzmar said, being restrained is far more upsetting to little pups about to be docked than anything else. When I’ve had litters docked, it was noteworthy that very few of the puppies ever reacted at all at the actual moment of docking.

I’d never say that cropping was pain free, but I’ve never seen it slow a puppy down for a red hot minute, either. They’re back playing and being puppies almost as soon as you bring them home from the vet the day they get it done.

In this day and age, cropping is done for primarily cosmetic reasons, and I feel no need to justify that to anyone. It’s a decision that should be left to me and my vet.

I’m not interested in owning anything but a cropped/docked doberman.

Most surgeries are not pain free – but in young puppies, the pain is gone quickly and they forget quickly….. just as a baby boy does not remember being circumsized.

I’ve cropped two litters and seen them right after cropping – they are running around like a herd of shriners playing and eating within hours of being cropped. Getting used to the cup on their head takes about one day and then they pretty much ignore it. I use BFI powder for the edges of the ears – helps with itching and dries them up quickly.

It really amazes me that so many people make such a big deal about cropping and docking when they apparently think nothing of all the cosmetic enhancements the people all around them do…. tatoos, body piericing, nose jobs, boob jobs, etc, etc….. Done correctly, it is really not a big deal to the dog.

This is my last litter within a couple of days of being cropped:

A lot of the people who spout off about cropping and docking are totally clueless about the whole procedure.

It is not painless, but it is not the huge deal that people make of it either. Tails and dewclaws are done by 5 days of age – if later, they have to be done by a vet with pain meds. Puppies are born with an incomplete nervous system – docking of tails and dews IS felt, but as soon as the puppy is returned to the whelping box, they are totally over it. Part of their issue is the fact that they are being restrained on their back and they really don’t like that.

I am pretty neutral on this topic. Meaning, I don’t really care either way, and would never base any of my decisions around whether or not a dog was cropped/docked. If it is done properly, at the right age, it is so NOT cruel. I think most people don’t understand what’s involved, they just imagine someone taking a pair of scissors to a dogs tail. But the reason why it is done at 2-3 days old is because it is all soft, and it’s done before it hardens. Ears as well, are done at a young age, before the cartilage stiffens, so it’s a pretty minor procedure.

I guess what I’m saying is that tail docking and ear cropping are most important for working dogs. However, there are benefits to cropping/docking even our pets and that it’s not purely cosmetic. Also, the dog was envisioned at creation as being a dog with a bob tail and docked ears, that’s what the standard has called for for a hundred years. Therefore, if we want to have our dobes cropped or docked, people should leave us alone and let us do it.

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oh I’m sick…. Heart sick even my 6 year old said it was cruel. He said “but it’s only a puppy, why?”

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this link leaves me with a sick feeling. again I hear the pro-circumcision arguments in these statements about tail and ear docking..

http://www.zimfamilycockers.com/Forums/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=2664&start=0&view=print

I hope this isn’t a hot topic here. I really couldn’t care either way…. though a nubby is damn cute. I often wonder if these people shouting animal cruelty for cosmetic purposes, circumcise their human male kids.

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Excellent true story about a mom who went from pro-circumcision to anti-circumcision

Click the link below.
It is about a mother who learned the truth about the harms of circumcision after having her first son cut and who chose to leave her second son whole/intact/uncircumcised.

http://www.moralogous.com/2013/07/22/real-stories-i-changed-my-mind-about-circumcision/

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Your son won’t feel pain. Say what????

http://www.everythingbirthblog.com/

Exact link:
http://www.everythingbirthblog.com/2013/04/circumcision-the-doctor-told-me-he-wouldnt-feel-a-thing/

Before

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After:
Look at the stress written on his face

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Same baby, same mother… one day later. After his circumcision, he just maintained the concerned look, with furrowed brows, even while he slept. It could have been pain from where they drew blood. Maybe.
So, for the week that followed I changed his diaper while he screamed the whole time. His little penis was red and tinges of blood would get on his diaper, even though I was putting petroleum jelly on it just like they said to. It wasn’t a little red. It was an angry red. And still I wondered why he was so upset. I remember telling him, “Mama has to change your diaper, honey.” As though what bothered him was not being wrapped up tightly. Maybe it was that. Maybe.

To this day, my son who is almost a teenager now, is still proving my old obstetrician wrong. He has asked me to get him a particular kind of underwear because his “completely normal” scar tissue causes discomfort. Sometimes, according to him, it even hurts. And the thing is, all of this discomfort and pain was pointless.
I was informed that my son would not feel a thing.
That might be one of the biggest lies I have ever fallen for.
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From the comments section and her reply:

Jeff says:
APRIL 28, 2013 AT 4:25 PM
The doctors weren’t lying.
It’s just that the “not feeling a thing” part comes later…
He’ll first notice that the doctors were “correct” in his twenties when he tries to practice safe sex by using a condom. At that point, he won’t feel a thing.
(He’ll give up on condoms at that point – hope he doesn’t catch anything.)
Later, in his thirties, or if he’s lucky, his forties, he’ll notice that the doctors were again “correct” when he tries to have sex even without a condom. Again, he won’t feel a thing.
Most of his pleasure nerves are gone now. He may be extra sensitive now, but that won’t last very long.
Before he knows it, his ever less sensitive penis will prove that the doctors were correct. He won’t feel a thing.
Oh, and just so you know. The only one “going through this” is HIM.
And he’ll be “going through this” for the rest of his life…
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Dawn says:
APRIL 28, 2013 AT 5:55 PM
Jeff,
When a mother expresses remorse and comes forward in an attempt to help prevent the atrocities in the future, it does no good further shaming her.
I appreciate the added facts, what to expect in the future. That was all good and imperative information to share. Your last two comments, however, felt as though they were intended to hurt me or at least to minimize the feelings of mothers who do feel pain because they realize that their child did.
Evidently, you do not understand what a mother “goes through” when she realizes that she had a part in something that unnecessarily harmed her baby. The truth is, circumcision harms much more than just the child who was cut. It harms the mother who realizes her mistake to her very core. It harms the partner he will eventually choose. It harms our society in general. There are more victims than just the primary one. And all of these aspects should be discussed.
Finally, it’s imperative for mothers to express their remorse. When they do, and they are shamed, it shows other women they should not speak up about their remorse.
The truth is, I believe that it’s mother’s talking about their remorse that will ultimately end this practice.

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Both are powerful comments-
Shaming the mother or parents is wrong especially when they realize the mistake they made….this mom is sharing her story so others won’t feel her regret or her son’s pain
However, men (and women) who have been cut also feel the need (naturally) to lash out so that they to can leave a mark on the reader. The person who has been harmed is the child now grown up…. We must realize that these babies grow up and become adults…. Adults who may be angry…..

So parents- whether you chose to circumcise your children or not you should talk to them about circumcision so that when confronted with it in the future they can cope with it.
Once you’ve cone to the realization that circumcision of unconsenting minors is wrong let your child know so that when they grow up they don’t cut your grandchildren, so they advocate leaving children whole when asked by friends about circumcision…. Also if they are intact that they are proud to be whole and not ashamed because they are “deformed” in a cut-happy society!

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Had to unlike

I had to unlike some intactivists Facebook groups and pages today…. Not because they did anything wrong but because my heart was breaking at the info they were posting….
It’s is true info and they are simply showing excerpts adamant pro-circumcision advocates who post the stupidest crap so that Intactivists (anti-circumcision, pro-leave a child’s genitals alone) can refute the negative and pathetic disinformation being spewed….. But it was over loading my feed and I’ve been tense, angry and depressed lately because of what I’ve been reading.
So sorry my friends on those pages. I’ll be back but I need a break….. I need a break….. Carry on …. Carry on…

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Bleeding out/ hemorrhaging

Is circumcision just a routine harmless procedure?

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Before and after images:
http://circumcisiondecisionmaker.com/circumcision-facts/before-and-after-circumcision/

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http://joseph4gi.blogspot.com/2011/06/circumcision-is-child-abuse-picture.html?m=1

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http://www.drmomma.org/2010/05/death-from-circumcision.html?m=1

So freaking sad that this happens and that the statistics on infant injury or death due to circumcision are not accurately reported.

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Oh crap!

Please prayer for this little boy!!!!!!

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I really should have stayed off of fb today. My heart aches for this family.

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Oh God, the baby died. Please pray for this family in their time of grief and heartache.

“God, bring comfort and peace. Peace is your essence. Peace is your name. Bring peace to this family who has lost their precious child in death.
We come to you, God because we know that you sorrow, and are acquainted with grief. You too have endured the loss of a child. You empathize.
We can’t help but ask, “Why?” Forgive our insistence, our confusion, even our anger. We believe that you are just, and we ache to understand how this tragic death is an expression of that justice, how it expresses your love. We also know – in our minds at least – that you seldom answer the “why?” question. We press you, but on these matters you are mostly silent.
What we ask instead is “how?” How can we move forward? How can this bring us together and not tear us apart? How can we now live under the shadow of this untimely death? Answer this prayer with your comfort and guidance.
There is no way to remove the pain. The grief is real. The only sanity is to know, to believe, in a life beyond with you, when all the scales are righted and the sufferings are made good. We trust you and your promise that while this child’s life on earth is done, his life beyond has just begun. With that release we lose him and let him go into your arms, then by faith receive in return the boundless comfort of your presence. That is all, that is enough. In Jesus.”

Read more: http://blog.beliefnet.com/prayerplainandsimple/2011/06/a-prayer-for-a-family-grieving-the-death-of-a-child.html#ixzz2N3T3e12k

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“My son asked about his circumcision”

http://www.everythingbirthblog.com/2012/07/my-son-finally-asked-about-his-circumcision/

Yesterday, my ten year old son asked me if we could look through his baby albums. Every baby book has that one picture of the new baby, completely stark-naked, right? (Fingers crossed you just nodded to yourself.) When we got to that one, my son looked at it, then looked a little harder at it. Then he said, “Mom, what happened to my penis? It’s all red!”
I swallowed real hard. (My mom-pride doesn’t go down easy and we all know that I feel I made a mistake when I had my son circumcised.) Took a deep breath and said, “That’s where you were circumcised.”
He asked me what that meant.
I told him, “When you were born, you had a covering on the end of your penis called a foreskin. When you were circumcised, the doctor removed that covering.”
“What?!” He was shocked. “You let them cut off part of my penis off?! Why would you do that!?”
I explained to him that at that time most parents did, because doctors told us that we should. I told him they said it would prevent infection.
My ten year old said, “It would seem like cutting my penis could give me an infection. Plus, look at my face, I looked like I was in pain. It probably still hurt then, Mom.”
I said nothing, just listened.
Then he said, “Also, mom, I bet if that skin was there, it wouldn’t hurt sometimes when it rubbed against my underwear. I bet that was supposed to protect it.”
“You’re probably right,” I said.
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http://www.everythingbirthblog.com/2011/12/why-i-chose-to-circumcise-my-son/

This link tell of the “mother above’s” motives and regret about circumcising her son. The comment section is most insightful.

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A Father (not related to the above family) explains cultural quirks, customs, traditions and circumcision to his son.
Click the link below for the actual pictures and the full story of the slide show power point presentation.

http://www.restoringtally.com/blog/2010/03/fathers-talk-his-son-about-infant-circumcision

When my son came home from school today, he packed up for his camping trip and I called him downstairs to my home office area.
The Circumcision Slideshow

After a brief overview of “growing up” and all, I walk him through the following (with pics):
– Dogs with normal ears and cropped ears (the term used when ears are shortened)

– Dogs with normal tails and then docked tails (the term used when tails are removed)

– Baby girl with normal ears and the with pierced ears

– Baby boy with normal skin and one with tattoos (I just stumbled upon this); crazy to think that someone would REALLY do that!

At this point we discuss the pain that would be involved with these modifications and the idea that PERHAPS the dogs/children would not have wanted this to happen, had they been given the choice
– I then show a few pics of tribal body modification (funny neck rings) to show how different cultures do different things; one pic is of a little girl ~7 or so, with some rings on her neck and another pic is of an adult female, with ~15-20 rings on her neck (truly disturbing! And we both wanted to look away!)

We then discussed those ear lobe things and lip plate things – I did this to highlight that different cultures do different things
– I then showed a few pics of out dated medical procedures; first being “barbers” (bloodletting and all as it was thought that “bad blood” made you sick) and another with medicinal leeches (but saying that some people still use leeches since they think it can be helpful)

At this point I give him a GOOD warning that we will now get into some very private stuff
– Pic (drawing) of intact infant penis (with foreskin) and I introduce the term (foreskin; which he had never heard before) and explain that it covers the tip of the penis

I then mention that sometimes, for some reason moms/dads/doctors alter this “natural state”
– I next show him a drawing that shows 3 steps of circ (normal foreskin, skin pulled forward with a line where the cut occurs and then the circed penis, with glans exposed) – again, just drawings, did not think REAL pics were appropriate!

He gets this look of horror on his face! We spend a few minutes talking about this. I had also brought down with me a VERY LONG sock so I could try and explain how the foreskin works (folding over to protect the glans, etc…; I slid the sock onto my hand and rolled it BACK over my fist), then I explained that the glans is like the tongue and is supposed to protected, etc…. I then explained that some cultures do it (this cut thing) and that some doctors think that it is better (I left it at that); but I added that his mother and I did not want to have that done to him because we just did not think it was the right thing to do.
– I then show another picture the shows the cross section of a penis (intact, cut or circumcised) showing how the skin overlaps and protects the glans.

– Finally I show him a graph that shows that circ rates are different as per area, but that (in general) ~50% of boys are and ~50% of are not… I never used the word “uncircumcised” just “natural” or “circumcised” (using UN – IMO – suggests that circumcised is the normal way to be).

We then spend a few minutes chatting it up about how this is a private matter. I explained that sometimes when dads are one way, the boys are that way, but other times, dads can be this way and the boys can be that way. At that point I assumed he was going to ask about myself. I had always been torn as to how I would answer that question if asked by anyone (my son or a doctor). I had decided earlier in the day that IF he did ask me, I would simply say “I have a foreskin” (to say I was “normal” would be a lie and to say “I was cut” would be too painful for me). Anyway, it did not come up… and probably never will.
I then went on to say that no one should ever be teased about this, whether they are one way or the other; that if he were in a room with 10 boys and all were normal but one, that few boys (at this age) would really know why that was and that this one boy should not be teased because he was cut; then, I reversed this and asked him, if he were in a room with 10 boys and he was the only one that was “normal” and they teased him, what would he think?
My Son’s Reaction

The words that came out of his mouth warmed my heart and crystallized my decision 10 years ago (as I had always worried about his reaction to this decision).
“Well, I would know that they were the ones who got hurt.”

WHAT MORE COULD I ASK FOR?
We spoke for a few more minutes and then he wanted to LEAVE (he had had enough of this “private” discussion). I followed him upstairs and he goes and hugs his mom….
I asked him why he was hugging her. He said, “for not doing that to me.”
He then came over and hugged me (and did not let go until I made him).
As much as I’m so proud of him for understanding and happy that I had realized ALL of this before my son was born, I’m saddened.

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Another mom with regret

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Difference between circumcised and intact
http://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html?m=1

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(The above 3 screen shots were a random commenter on a Facebook thread)

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below is a link to pictures of a circumcision…. Look at it and realize this torture is happening to a child
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Wow… Shockingly powerful. Photos included in link

http://wreckingboy.livejournal.com/318545.html

Even if you don’t read the linked article word for word skim the pictures they tell a very compelling story.
Leave your boys whole! Don’t chop up genitals. Period.

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Not related to the above link. Taken from soggy mamas on Facebook

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below is a link to pictures of a circumcision…. Look at it and realize this torture is happening to a child
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One man’s blog: Recovery from a botched infant circumcision

http://botched-circumcision-recovery.blogspot.com/?m=1

You should really read his story from begining to end.http://botched-circumcision-recovery.blogspot.com/?m=1

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A radio show talking about circumcision
http://m.blogtalkradio.com/sexliesandconsciousness/2012/11/19/baby-boy-circumcision–and-its-impact-on-sex

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below is a link to pictures of a circumcision…. Look at it and realize this torture is happening to a child
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Penile cancer at circumcision scar line

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumcision_scar#_

Penile cancer can occur on the scar.[3][4] In some cases, the scar can form a tight constricted ring causing preputial stenosis.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/16406995/?i=4&from=circumcision%20scar%20cancer

CONCLUSIONS: Penile carcinoma in circumcised men is a distinct disease commonly following nonclassic vigorous circumcision. Delayed diagnosis and deferring surgical treatment are associated with increased mortality.

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http://www.ehow.com/way_5541954_circumcision-scar-removal.html

A circumcision scar can involve more than aesthetics. Sometimes penile cancer develops on or around the scar. Two pathologists who studied complications of circumcision reported that tissue analysis of the scar revealed “amputation neuromas,” a tumor or mass growing on the ends of amputated nerve fibers that can cause pain, as well as a “bulbous collection of variably-sized neurites” (nerve endings). Because of mounting evidence that circumcision not only reduces sexual sensation, but also may cause lifelong sexual and emotional harm, the British Medical Association determined in 2006 that “this surgical procedure (circumcision) has medical and psychological risks.” Among those risks are necrotizing fasciitis (“flesh-eating bug”), cellulitis, phimosis (tightness or constriction of the orifice of the prepuce, urinary fistulas (abnormal passages in the urinary tract) and impotence. Some have argued that circumcision predisposes the infant male’s brain to violence and has a negative effect on maternal bonding and trust. The British Journal of Urology (Cold CJ, Taylor JR, The prepuce, Vol. 83, Suppl.1:34-44, January 1999) recommends that circumcision be avoided and that “removal of normal genital anatomy in children and infants should be deferred until the individual can make an informed decision.”

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http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2422896/

Based on our cases and the literature, it is prudent to conclude that circumcision, even when performed neonatally, does not offer absolute protection against invasive penile cancer.

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http://www.circumstitions.com/Cancer.html

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Ouch! Scar ripping and bleeding

http://ehealthforum.com/health/circumcision-scar-rips-easily-t264357.html#axzz2EnTKDl8F

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http://www.mothering.com/community/t/85625/old-scar-pain-from-circ


http://www.menweb.org/circintr.htm

Long-term possible adverse outcomes (physical) include: skin tags; skin bridges; prominent scarring (keloid scar formation); tight, painful erections; bleeding of the circumcision scar during prolonged intercouse (constituting an efficient portal of entry for HIV among other viruses); penile curvature due to uneven skin loss; skin tone variance; progressive sensitivity loss (progressive keratinization of the glans-surface); excessive/painful stimulation or prolonged exaggerated thrusting needed to achieve orgasm; beveling deformities of the glans.

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Ouch again
http://www.pegym.com/forums/exercise-health-forum/50863-ripped-skin-shaft-circumcision-scar.html

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http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/always-raw-between-circumcision-scar-and-head-why/show/331377


http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Urology/My-3-year-old-seams-to-have-soreness-on-circumcision-scar/show/746057
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A man’s journey recovering from his infant circumcision. Warning there are pictures
http://botched-circumcision-recovery.blogspot.com/2011/11/before-appointment-photos.html?m=1&zx=f75cbd479b387adf

I looked, I read, and I learned. I found out that what was wrong with my body–that the reason that my penis hurt so much was not a birth defect but rather a surgical mistake. What was wrong was caused by a surgery, and it was called a “skin bridge,” or more specifically, a trauma-induced balano-preputial adhesion. I learned that my complication was the direct result of my parents needlessly paying some stranger to royally screw up my genitals with a knife.

Men like me exist in misery, but are marginalized. Even more indignation stems from the fact that a few doctors know that damage like ours happens, but still continue this practice. Their willingness to continue to recommend circumcision means that people like me are treated as “acceptable losses or risks.” I am a human being in pain, and not just some unrecorded number.

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Someone wrote this on a discussion forum. I asked for a link to that info.

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What is lost to circumcision

http://www.norm.org/lost.htm

graphic: what is lost: http://www.circumstitions.com/Works.html

sarcasm: http://iraresoul.com/site/mobile?url=http%3A%2F%2Firaresoul.com%2Fcircumcision.html#2719

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Infant pain unacknowledged.

http://www.terrylarimore.com/BabiesAndPain.html

If this form of sexual violence to newborns is to end anytime soon, success will probably require one or more of the following: (1) massive consumer education leading to public revolt against a painful ritual with no benefit; (2) application of national and international child abuse statutes to forbid sexual alteration of newborns and any form of infant torture; (3) a requirement that both parents be present to observe and circumcision performed on their babies; or (4) a rebellion of obstetricians themselves, actively opposing circumcision and refusing to perform the operation. Any one of these would go a long way toward ending a century of scandal for both parents and doctors.

Conclusions and Recommendations
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1. Pain is a universal language that can be understood by its vocal sounds, facial expressions, body movements, respiration, color, and even its crashing metabolism. Babies speak this language as well as anyone. We should listen seriously and react appropriately.
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2. Pain is as real and upsetting to babies as it is to the rest of us. The myth that their pain is not like our pain is ancient, insidious, and harmful. We should reject it.
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3. Pain makes a deep impression; babies are probably more impressionable than older children and adults. Protecting them from the impact of pain would prevent personal suffering at the beginning of life and the need for psychotherapeutic repairs later.
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4. The earlier an infant is subjected to pain, the greater the potential for harm. Early pains include being born prematurely into a man-made “womb,” being born full-term in a man-made delivery room, being subject to any surgery (major or minor), and being circumcised. We must alert the medical community to the psychological hazards of early pain and call for the removal of all man-made pain surrounding birth.
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5. Physicians have made birth routinely painful for newborns, believing that they would not feel, not care, not remember, and not learn from painful experiences. In effect, they denied pain, and they failed to recognize babies as persons.
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6. Obstetrics was constructed on a false psychology, born in the 19th Century and generally indifferent to the mind of the newborn. The question is: Can obstetricians construct anew approach to infants on the foundations of a new psychology of babies who feel, think, learn and remember?

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Despite

Despite what readers of this blog may think, I absolutely hate posting about circumcision and its harm. It breaks my heart. I ached for these tortured children.
I know their parents love them and this (what i consider) torture is not inflicted on their child to “harm” their child but this has got to change.

People once thought slavery was acceptable it is now almost universally accepted that slavery is a human rights violation.

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Plastibell complications

Plastibell complications:

http://www.thewholenetwork.org/14/post/2012/08/the-dangers-of-plastibell-circumcisions-graphic.html

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http://medind.nic.in/jan/t12/i2/jant12i2p87.htm
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Possible complications for all 3 main methods of circumcision
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/2069034-overview#a17
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http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/archive/index.php/t-69138.html

Has some web address In the op post

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Circumcision mishaps in Nigerian children
O. D. Osifo, I. A. Oriaifo
http://www.bioline.org.br/pdf?am09056

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Last picture taken from parents uncensored on Facebook. It is not a plastibell procedure but all circumcision do required cutting.

One mom’s story in screen shots

This is one mom’s story about the circumcision of her son which she witnessed.
These are screen shots of her side on a discussion forum. I tried to remove all names except for when they show up in the middle of a text. (Oh I think I fixed that now)

Sorry if any are out of order or have to much chopped off. I was trying to ensure privacy.

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(These are screen shots spanning several days. I asked the mother before relaying her story. I did screen shots so that I wasn’t editing her words)

My heart breaks for this little boy. Many people may blame the parents but I blame the doctors. Until the drs stop offering and doing unnecessary circumcisions, the parents will continue to sign their little boys up for this painful and traumatizing surgery in the name of culture and medical propaganda.
The foreskin is NOT a birth defect. Anti-circ advocates are not trying to SCARE new parents, anti-circ advocates are trying to save your sons from needless harm and trauma.
We shouldn’t have to yell about death or possible penile amputations. Drs should tell parents straight up what the risks are and minimize the minuscule “potential” benefits.
Circumcised men still get STDs, still get HIV, still get UTIs and yeast infections.
Circumcised men are not impervious to penile problems, in fact circumcised men may have problems because of their circumcision.
If a circumcised man has a penile problem due to being circumcised there is no quick fix. The damage is done.
If an intact man has penile problems he has options. The man can choose. It is his body!

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Another woman’s story
http://www.thewholenetwork.org/14/post/2011/09/pressure-from-spouses-a-botched-circumcision-leads-to-regret.html

The healing process never seemed to end. As he got older, the bleeding stopped, but the wound never healed. At first, his pediatrician told us to continue to just put the Vaseline on it, continuing to treat it like we always had. It wasn’t until six months of questioning did she inspect a little better and found that, while the doctors considered him a “big” boy and claimed to have no trouble with his circumcision, they actually snipped too much off. Now, he will have a permanent scar about a half of an inch long at the tip of his penis. When it will become a scar, I have no idea (as of right now, it’s still an open wound, 14 months later.) We’re still required to keep Vaseline on it several times a week. We find blood occasionally on diapers and hear him screaming at the first sign of a dirty diaper. He runs away after his diaper comes off and holds himself sobbing. During those nights when his cut reopens, he and I both lay awake at night crying, wishing for an end.

We should have allowed him that choice, we should have waited. If we had, he wouldn’t be in pain several times a month… he would be whole with no pain, as he should be. I don’t know if this has changed my husband’s view on circumcision, and I don’t blame him for this. I blame myself for saying yes; I blame myself for signing those forms; I blame myself completely, and I will fight for tomorrow’s sons- whether they are my own, my nephews, or a stranger’s. No boy should have to go through this pain, not for his parents peace of mind.

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Another story:

Another baby hemorrhaging… Lucky to be alive and yet supposedly the risks are worth it? How is almost dying worth it? How is almost dying because of a medically unnecessary surgery being performed on a healthy infant worth it?

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